Actions speak louder than Words
As I was watching the olympics, I saw this ad and thought it was funny.
I thought this was cute. And kinda reminds of the scene in Memoirs of a Geisha. I think this guy would get my attention.
Loading ...Saudi men arrested for ‘flirting’
The men are accused of wearing indecent clothes, playing loud music and dancing in order to attract the attention of girls, the Saudi Gazette reported.
They were arrested following a request of the Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and Prevention of Vice.
The mutaween enforce Saudi Arabia’s conservative brand of Islam, Wahhabism.
Earlier in the month, the authorities enforced a ban on the sale of red roses and other symbols used in many countries to mark Valentine’s Day.
The ban is partly because of the connection with a “pagan Christian holiday”, and also because the festival itself is seen as encouraging relations between the sexes outside marriage, punishable by law in the kingdom.
The Prosecution and Investigation Commission said it had received reports of such “bad” behaviour by 57 young men at a number of shopping centres in the holy city of Mecca, the Saudi Gazette said.
The guardians of some of the men defended their actions, however, saying they would regularly get together at the weekend to have fun without ever violating laws governing the segregation of the sexes, it added.
For the Guys
Every man knows how intimidating it can be to start up a conversation with a beautiful woman. She’s surrounded by a group of her friends and you’re left to your own devices to come up with the right thing to say to her.
It’s unfortunate that you decide to follow your buddies’ suggestion and use a corny pick up line to get her attention.
And just like clockwork, she walks away from you in disgust immediately after you speak these words.
You know you missed out because you chose such a fake approach.
The dilemma with using corny pick up lines is that they’re never effective. If you’re serious about winning her over, you should use a more genuine technique.
Rather than using corny pick up lines, think of original things to say to her. There are several techniques you can use to get her interested without sounding contrived or over-the-top:
1) Situational conversation starter-
Take advantage of your surroundings. If you happen to see something strange or comical, you can use it as an opportunity to approach a woman who also witnessed the event. By cracking a joke or making a witty remark about the situation, you’ll immediately have something to laugh about together.
2) Just act normally-
Walking right up to an attractive woman and introducing yourself is an extremely successful way to strike up an exchange. By approaching her in a confident manner and avoiding the stunts so many other guys use to attract women, you’ll really be setting yourself apart from the crowd. She’ll be more than a little impressed with your straightforwardness and honesty.
3) Be Funny
Few things are as attractive to a woman as a sense of humor. Your ultimate objective when using this method should be to make her laugh. Remember to act in a slightly arrogant manner so that you build yourself up as a reward she should strive to earn for herself.
This technique is especially useful because you’re not being obnoxious about the fact that you’re attempting to win her affections. Rather, you’re just having an enjoyable conversation where the goal is to amuse her.
While it’s true that corny pick up lines are capable of getting a woman’s attention, it’s unlikely she’ll give you her genuine interest. Instead of using them, you are better off considering your other options.
Next time you approach a woman, try using one of the above techniques. You will be surprised at how much more successful they are than corny pick up lines.
The concept of ‘Hitting on’ Women
Author: Rion Williams
This concept has always interested me. Women will complain about being ‘hit on‘ all the time and guys will talk about ‘hitting on‘ girls.
Some men even admit that there just IS no other way to approach women because you’re a man so obviously you MUST be interested in her sexually.
This is a limiting belief as well.
What are the true relational dynamics that exist in this frame of reality? Let’s take a look..
‘Hitting on‘ implies that the man is interested in some way (usually sexually) and he is going to do something to try to impress her so that she’ll be interested in him.
Unfortunately for most men, ‘hitting on chicks‘ nowadays almost never works. Even for a man that has got ‘game’, it’s usually the subculture of women who know they are in the game that will then assess his level of skill and congruency.
But for the majority of men in first world countries..
When a man approaches a woman, she can almost always tell if he is going to ‘hit on‘ her.
In many cases he will even attempt to use ‘pick-up lines‘.
Women have become so adept at this after being approached by hundreds of different men (who all seem the same) that have ‘hit on’ them.
They’ve become very aware and keen on what is going on and can see it from a mile away.
They can tell from the man’s nonverbal body language and communication that he is ‘interested’ in her and that she has the favor in the relationship because he’s trying to ‘get some’.
Is there any way around it? Actually, yes there is.
Remember in Swingers when ‘T’ talks about being the ‘Rated R guy’?
While so many guys focus on ‘the game’, they’re missing the most important key to success. If they could not play the ‘game’ and instead keep their own power to themselves, they could approach women invisibly and indifferent to the outcome.
The women would try and figure out where he’s coming from and if he’s interested or not because his body language is giving nothing away other than that he is comfortable in his own skin and not intimidated by her.
He’s not trying to ‘get some‘ or ‘hit on her‘, in fact he is just making a connection and being social.
His body language is what is sending the right message and sometimes when women realize that he really isn’t afraid of her or trying to get somewhere, the light will go on and they’ll start responding to him (like they’re supposed to).
After all, it’s the woman’s level of interest anyways that determines if any kind of relationship will go forward.
But where are the men who use this powerful and invisible game? Women are looking for this man because they want to get caught up in the excitement and intrigue of it.
They’re very tired of men coming up and hitting on them.
In the relationship where men hit on them, she has the power and favor and that’s not what she wants. She wants a man who is equal or greater in relational power than her.
That way she can be attracted to him.
Yes, today’s women live in a logical vs. natural instinctive paradox but don’t blame them for it. Look at their actions instead of their words.
If you don’t understand the root behavioral characteristics they represent, you’ll continue to think women are illogical and you’ll still probably think the only way is to give away your power and mystery up front so that you have to ‘hit on’ women.
And what about the guys who uncontrollably ARE interested in her sexually?
Well, that’s the problem because they’re giving their power away and ruining their (what becomes) ‘chance’ all along.
It’s time that men harness an equal leverage of power that the woman has and gain some self-control because he actually may NOT be interested in her other characteristics.
This will require some de-programming and advanced training to actually change his reality from ‘hitting on chicks’, playing the ‘game’ and failing to one of attracting women and getting them consistently interested because he keeps his power for himself.
And do you notice how so many people call it ‘getting lucky’. That entire frame is one where women have the power and control.
If you want success with women, YOU have to be the one who has the power and control in the relationship because that is what they are attracted to and words can’t do it justice.
Know the truth and live it, don’t get caught up in the socially contrived ‘game’. Be the Rated ‘R’ guy who women can’t figure out where you’re coming from and get THEM interested in you.
-Rion Williams