How to Stop Getting Hit on at Work

October 3rd, 2008

I personally don’t get hit on at work because I work with a bunch of women — booo.  But I guess this can apply to women and men, yes I said men, since I don’t want to leave anyone out.  And I could only imagine how hard it is when you can’t run away from the hitter like you can at a bar or something.  Hopefully these steps can help somewhat. Good luck!

  1. Realize that you are being complimented. They obviously find you attractive enough to spend their valuable time checking you out in strange ways.
  2. Consider the possibility that you may be inviting such attention. What makes you different from other people to whom no one pays attention? Could you be dressing too provocatively? Perhaps you are not dressing provocatively enough.
  3. Understand that most men are genetically designed to be attracted to movement, silhouette and color. That’s what made early man successful hunters. Those attributes now cause us to be attracted to any woman who smiles at us, even for a moment.
  4. Avoid eye contact. Men interpret it as a sign of sexual interest. However, a lack of eye contact will be seen as a challenge.
  5. Keep good hygiene. The worst thing you could do is to stop showering. This will keep people away but may also lead to the loss of your job.
  6. Start becoming more involved in your work. Stay active and spend less time simply doing nothing so you can not be approached as easily.
  7. Make it clear that you are not interested or are not finding the comments flattering. Use this only with a co-worker. It may cause problems if you tell a customer off.
  8. Thank the giver for the compliment and walk away. This sends the signal that you are not interested. Again, use this only with co-workers.
  9. Tell management if you are having problems with either sources. They can help eliminate the problem or give you further ways to resolve the issue if it starts to interfere with your work.
  10. Stay with other people as much as you can. You are less likely to be confronted if you are near a group or even one other person.
  11. Accept that you are an attractive person and simply don’t let it creep you out.

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  1. “Avoid eye contact. Men interpret it as a sign of sexual interest. However, a lack of eye contact will be seen as a challenge.”

    I’m in interested in this article simply for the sake of dealing with many customers who hit on me. Anyway, a lack of eye contact is a challenge, as that caused one customer to assume I was very shy towards him. In the past there have been so many male customers that hit on me, that for a while I got into a habit of not making eye contact with them that was too long. If a male customer thinks I’m shy, I really don’t care. However this particular customer told my female manager that he thought I was shy and that is how I found out. Naturally, my manager who is married by the way….. has always been bubbly, loud, outgoing and even flirty, BUT since she is in her early 60s and not attractive, she can easily be that way and NOT one male customer will hit on her or try to get personal with her. I work in an insurance office by the way.to be more out Anyway, so avoiding eye contact for a long time can be a challenge since some people will get rubbed the wrong way and say that I’m a snob or something. lol.

    Comment by Cath on April 10, 2011 at 11:13 pm